2 Thessalonians 3:11 New International Version (NIV)

11 We hear that some among you are idle and disruptive. They are not busy; they are busybodies 

  • while mothers-in-law have reputation for being prime meddlers, they have not cornered the market on this vice.
  • Men, relatives, co-workers and well meaning friends are also prone to prying from time to time. 
  • Unlike gossips, meddlers usually seek personal information directly from their subjects.
  • In all fairness, not everyone who makes inquiries is meddling. Many are sincerely interested in helping others.
  • Whether you are genuinely concerned or just plain curious, be especially careful to avoid probing.
  • It is best to wait for someone to volunteer detailed information about his personal health.
  • if you are prone to natural curiosity, you must make a special effort to keep you inquisitiveness. within the bound of what is socially and spiritually appropriate.
  • In some situation you may have no intentions of prying, however you may still run the risk of your inquisitiveness offending others.
  • He/she was not a child and could manage her affair just fine.
  • Even if you feel you have earned the right to stick your nose into the situation , walk softly. You might want to pray about it first and leave the matter to God. He is always better at influencing circumstances than we are.
  •  Do I have a sincere, unselfish motive for prying into this matter, or am I attempting to control thing for my desired objectives?

Proverbs 26:17New King James Version (NKJV)

17 He who passes by and meddles in a quarrel not his own
Is like one who takes a dog by the ears.

1 Peter 4:15-16New Living Translation (NLT)

15 If you suffer, however, it must not be for murder, stealing, making trouble, or prying into other people’s affairs. 16 But it is no shame to suffer for being a Christian. Praise God for the privilege of being called by his name!

Someone once said that one reason why people who mind their won business are succsessful is that they have so little competition.



P.S.. unfinished


Building and Rebuilding

building-your-houseCan we ask ourselves, what it takes to build a house?







It takes a serious construction to build a house.

You will need:

  • Architect to design your house, provide plan.
  • General constructor like carpenters, dye wall installer, painter,
  • Building inspector to visit your site at regular intervals.

Aside from that you need to set your plans to be organized and most important you need is money to get construction started. What do you feel? Excited? Motivated? Desperate? Have you ask yourself how long will it takes to build a house?

For a smaller house with few options or less detailed finishes it will take 8 to 12 weeks, 6 to 9 months from start to finish. A longer house with high options customized future facilities and finishes will take 1 ½ year to complete.

When building a house, ideally we see the picture of the weather will be perfect ,all materials arrived on time and intact , trades people will be ready and on time. Unfortunately this is a very rare occasion and in life it doesn’t go that way.

The weather could take a term of the work, material could be late and missing or not available, electrician could be held up to another job, constructor can be sick, rearrange construction schedule and some more.  There will be normal unplanned events that can affect the progress of home building. Yes building can be exciting but sometimes it can be a chaotic event.

And after you have done everything viola! The house is done! J But that does not stop there; you will encounter a lot of things. Climate change, storms or flood, one item might be destroyed by intruders, some part gets damage and old that needs to be repair.

Why am I talking about building and rebuilding? Because building your-self is like building a house. It is a self-project that God provides you. Every project is different either our lives too. You need resources, materials, people who will help in construction. But building self needs wisdom, experiences, challenges and test.

We are not born perfect and no one was born perfect!  Growing and learning takes time. There will be changes in you as time goes by. When you are young you like something so much and when you get old it doesn’t bother you anymore. You have learned a lot through teachings, experiences and mistakes. Perspective change as environment and maturity evolve! As we grow building self-took its part! As we done building ourselves: our character, values, morals, personality…. rebuilding takes place! J

Life is not an easy path. When you are young it was easy to live life. You have your parents with you who stood up for you and when you grow old there is a break through coming. You’re getting out of your comfort zone.