Disaster may burn it, tragedy may smash it, injury may bruise it, or arrogance may denounce it. But faith, like seed buried under concrete, is difficult to keep down permanently. – Rebuilding the Real You
Here you are being so envious of people going to coffee shop, pampering themselves to luxurious spa, shopping endlessly, updated their gadgets, hopping to the next destination of adventure and here you are stuck in your house and telling God “ Oh God Why Am I always Broke? “
You work so hard and when you have the cash it blew away so quickly. You feel life is so hard to enjoy. You work for it but you can’t feel the comfort of your hard work. You envy people because they have the world. You look at yourself pitifully and said” I am just ordinary”. After you got the cash you open your notebook budget and jot down all the expense and bills. Oh! Here you are after you got your cash you’re stuck at your house and feeling down doing nothing because you spent your money already. You are tired of that cliche, in your heart you want to indulge yourself to luxury.
Matthew 6:21New International Version (NIV)
21 For where your treasure is, there your heart will be also.
Ecclesiastes 5:10New International Version (NIV)
10 Whoever loves money never has enough;
whoever loves wealth is never satisfied with their income.
This too is meaningless.
But haven’t you realized that being broke is a blessing? You have nowhere to go. You can’t go out because you recently paid the bills and groceries. You budget your money until the next pay day. You grumble to yourself that life is so difficult because you feel financially inadequate.
Are you really financially inadequate? Ask yourself three times. Sometimes this word is misused especially when they feel completely running out of money.
So let analyze…
- You paid your bills and nothing left but allowance for the next pay day. You are not broke because you prioritize your financial responsibilities over luxury.
- You gave money to people who need it most and you share tithes and you realized there is nothing left in you. You are not broke because your money has purpose. You are generous at heart. When you give do not grieve.
Exodus 22:25New International Version (NIV)
25 “If you lend money to one of my people among you who is needy, do not treat it like a business deal; charge no interest.
Matthew 19:21New International Version (NIV)
21 Jesus answered, “If you want to be perfect, go, sell your possessions and give to the poor, and you will have treasure in heaven. Then come, follow me.”
You are not broke, you are frugal but you aspire to do beyond you financial capacity. That makes you feel broke.
1 Timothy 6:10New International Version (NIV)
10 For the love of money is a root of all kinds of evil. Some people, eager for money, have wandered from the faith and pierced themselves with many griefs.
Okay! If you claim yourself to be broke because that’s what you feel right now then let it be. You can say you are broke when you are really financially bankrupt. You spent your money to unnecessary things. You have not paid your bills and debts after you gone wasted. You have not settled your credit card. You don’t have savings. In that way, you are absolutely true.
But don’t feel bad about yourself for too long. And don’t grumble your life because you are grumbling to God too when in fact it is your own doing why it runs out that fast. God is watching you while you are doing your thing.
I just realized when you are doing something on your own regardless if it is good or bad, still God allows it. Because his sovereignty will always reign. You are predestined, you have nowhere to run. You can’t escape your destiny. At the end of the day when life hits you ten times you run back to him asking for help. You turn 360 degrees and come back to him weeping, asking for forgiveness and guidance. Oh here he is with outstretched arms, preparing of your coming. Oh that’s humanity being arrogant and sinful and that’s God being merciful and loving. He made you, you belong to him. You are not master of yourself. You are his sheep, and he will always watch you wander.
The sad truth is that sometimes we claim we are broke because we want something more than ordinary. Even if we shop all day, gone out to a place, eat to luxury restaurants, got you to a movie treat, pamper ourselves, we will never be satisfied. Still we will feel inadequate. We want more! We want to live a life of luxury all the time. We want it every day.
Matthew 6:24New International Version (NIV)
24 “No one can serve two masters. Either you will hate the one and love the other, or you will be devoted to the one and despise the other. You cannot serve both God and money.
But if we change our view and look unto the brighter side, we will be contented. While you are celebrating life have you think of God? While enjoying the luxurious moments have you given your full time to him as you always promised? Can you meditate? Can you focus? I don’t think so. Your time and focus will be divided. You may appreciate, thank him day and night but have you thank him for what really matters? Have you aligned your thoughts and feelings? Have you thank him for the real purpose of your existence? If it is his purpose to shop a lot, eat a lot, socialize a lot. This is not God anymore, this is the enemy. You are made into something more, for the great purpose of God. You will be one of his legacies. Yes! You will become one!
1 Timothy 6:17-19New International Version (NIV)
17 Command those who are rich in this present world not to be arrogant nor to put their hope in wealth, which is so uncertain, but to put their hope in God, who richly provides us with everything for our enjoyment.18 Command them to do good, to be rich in good deeds, and to be generous and willing to share. 19 In this way they will lay up treasure for themselves as a firm foundation for the coming age, so that they may take hold of the life that is truly life.
Being broke is a way to have an alone time with him. You don’t have money even a fare to visit granny or your best friend. It is God you need. You open your bible and pray to God. You worship him and realized “Oh this is the true abundance!”
1 Samuel 2:7New International Version (NIV)
7 The Lord sends poverty and wealth;
he humbles and he exalts.
Hebrews 13:5New International Version (NIV)
5 Keep your lives free from the love of money and be content with what you have, because God has said,
“Never will I leave you;
never will I forsake you.”[a]
It is time to be with him. To convers and praise him. He wants you to stop running with the world because the world is very competitive. Never content. He wants you to realize that every day is a blessing. You need to be contented because he gave you more such as Grace. He wants you to be protected. He wants you to realize that all you need is here, him. It is so amazing to have a God you can count all the time. He is a God higher than anything however you can call him anytime. He is always there.
In this world high hierarchy people is hard to be with. Try to have an appointment with the President. You need permit and reasonable reason to offer. If you say “I want to know him more personally”. Forget about it, it will never happen. You are wasting his time. Or try to converse with your father busy with business or work and will say “I have no time kid, I’ll make it up to you soon”. Or to a friend to vent out but they are busy with life. To think they are all human same as you. Why can’t they be reachable? Unlike the maker of the world, just say the word “God please listen, help me” before you can say it he was there all the time. He cares beyond what you can see and measure. He is clingy and jealous God. That’s the word.
Romans 8:28-30New International Version (NIV)
28 And we know that in all things God works for the good of those who love him, who[a] have been called according to his purpose. 29 For those God foreknew he also predestined to be conformed to the image of his Son, that he might be the firstborn among many brothers and sisters.30 And those he predestined, he also called; those he called, he also justified; those he justified, he also glorified.
For those people who said” you are broke” or “I am broke”. Have you noticed that God is implying something. He wants you to look around inside your house. He wants you to grab your pen and bible and said” make time for me , you have gone lately. I am waiting for you”. If he is here he might say “You told me that you will give me your time. That we will meditate together, sing together and laugh. You told me that you want me to be in charge and help you in your life”
He wants you to look around and evaluate yourself. You utter words “I love you Lord, you know that. I trust you” Do you still feel that ways? Read Luke 22:54-62 when Peter denied him after claiming he love the Lord. Peter denied him 3 times before the rooster crow. We have the capacity of human frailty just like Peter. Humans as we are, our weakness can yield to temptations. He foresee it, he want us to be like Peter all the time. Don’t be caught up by your own words and trapped by your own promise. He wants you to be snatched from the world because you are his custody. You belong to him.
Revelation 3:17New International Version (NIV)
17 You say, ‘I am rich; I have acquired wealth and do not need a thing.’ But you do not realize that you are wretched, pitiful, poor, blind and naked.
He wants you to look around and appreciate little things and focus to what is important.
Lately you’ve been busy shopping! But you realized you need to pay bills and groceries. You went out with a friend and talk nonsense instead of talking to God. It is normal to be sociable and be a friend. But too much of it puts you to harm.
Proverbs 10:11New International Version (NIV)
11 The mouth of the righteous is a fountain of life,
but the mouth of the wicked conceals violence.
Proverbs 25:7New International Version (NIV)
7 it is better for him to say to you, “Come up here,”
than for him to humiliate you before his nobles.
What you have seen with your eyes
This is true! First you have a sensible topic then you will feel comfortable so you share opinions then everything. The next day you caught each other slandering and gossiping. And it is contagious!
You feel so stress and envious so you gave yourself a break and become contagious. You go to coffee shop to hang out and it cost you a lot, you went shopping and tempted to buy more. You went for a night out then went home tired. You see pile of clothes, messy closet, dusty floor, and too tired to tidy up. You woke up broke and your breakfast was mom’s nagging telling you are irresponsible. You get emotional and said “why I am always broke? “
Enjoy this day being broke. Wake up and prepare breakfast. Sip that sweet coffee you made and say “ it is another day” Grab your bible sing with him and have a heart to heart talk with God. You will never go wrong talking to him. Do laundry and household chores. He wants you to be simple and enjoy little things. If you are much of a talker, talk to him. He won’t judge you and won’t get tired of listening. If you will feel broke again. Contemplate on it then have a long breath in and out and say to yourself “ I can reverse this. This shall pass! It’s a new day to start, I will cling to God until this will be my routine” do this every day and your awareness of things will change.
You will save a lot of money than before. You will spend more of important things. You will never mind buying new shoes, bags, make up, jewelry, jackets and clothes. You are busy with what really matters. He wants you to erase the word broke in your vocabulary and change it to “I am living a low key and frugal life”
Proverbs 13:7New International Version (NIV)
7 One person pretends to be rich, yet has nothing;
another pretends to be poor, yet has great wealth.
Some people only feel good about themselves when they are cutting others down. Maybe they don’t know how much their words hurt other people. Maybe they even think they are being funny 😂. It’s no fun to be on the receiving end of sarcastic comments. The negative 👎🏻 things settle into your heart ❤️ and make difficult to feel good 😊 about yourself. Most people don’t realize how much words affect others. But God knows that the things we say have the power to help or hurt 😭 people. We are encouraged in the Bible 📖 to speak kindly to each other. We are told to be careful how we speak to each other- to guard our tongues. Jesus taught that we should show love ❤️ to others. A big part of showing love means being careful about what we say and thinking 💭 about how or words will make the other person feel.
Someone told me that he will pray for my “idle character” and I smirked back! How dare he tell me that when in fact even in my day offs I’m finding ways to be productive? He knew how serious I am at work. How hard working I am in life, striving to be the best version of me. It alarmed me really. I laughed at him and asked him “seriously?” . I tried to defend myself “ Oh C’mon ! I used to have my daily “ to do list, recently I have my morning and evening routine. You know how I hate to do nothing. I was inspired by my new discovered bloggers and fond with these cool youtubers” And yes! He is serious! He stood for it and said “ You think a lot” and I was silent. I tried to listen while he was sharing his meditation. However I didn’t get over of what he told me and there I knew his point. In that moment I was able to contemplate, meditate and pray. His point is not being lazy physically but my spiritual realm is affected because of my idle mode.
When I heard the word idle, it reminds me of being lazy. Idle means simply doing nothing. But the real essence of the word is procrastinating physically, mentally and especially spiritually. It is not just being lazy and doing nothing in particular. We can identify idleness in physical realm. It is really known in physical and psychoenergetic realm. But we can’t recognize idle in our transcendental or spiritual realm. In fact once your transcendental realm is in idle, it will affect your psychoenergetic (cognitive and emotions) and physical realm subconsciously. Then what’s wrong with it? If spiritual idleness is not being recognized then it will affect your character. Let me site an example:
Once you over think you are in your idle mode. Entertaining fear, distrust, worry, judgment, and grumbling are the sign of idleness. Because when you are productive you will have no time for criticism, small talks, nonsense arguments, fear, distrust, judgment, grumbling and vulnerability. When you are productive you are making a significant out of that thing. You produce well out of the productivity. You are rising and not falling down. You are mature enough to react and respond to a dilemma.
I realized that I over think a lot! In work, in any aspects of my life actually! And I realized that I cannot skip my spiritual realm because my strength comes from it. How can I be grateful if I don’t read my bible and meditate? This world is rich in competition, power, treasures and critics. If I trust the lord, focus on my meditation and praise will I over think and be weary? No! I will be grateful and positive with life.
I once thought love was easy as one-two-three. Popular culture dictates that if you want a man, you gotta plan. Gone are the days when guys would do everything just to prove to you that you are worth the world to them. Today, all it takes is a simple “I luv u ;)” over chat or text for them to get your sweet “Yes!”
Sad to say, some boys will take you for granted. They think they can have us easily or that there is no problem with juggling two or more girls at a time.
While the blame falls on them, it’s also partly our fault. Some girls are content with allowing boys to go through the easy way. Of course, how can you say no when your crush finally notices you? How can you deny love’s knock on the door, even if he’s not just knocking at yours? We allow them to enter our lives so easily. We think that if we make things hard, he’ll go away and see someone else. And we don’t want that.
But girl, know this: you are worth it.
As David wrote on Psalm 139, we are fearfully and wonderfully made. The Lord made the intricate parts of our bodies and emotions. It’s enough to prove that girl, you are no ordinary piece of work. You are a wonderful masterpiece.
With that in mind, isn’t it only right for a guy to pursue you the right way? Don’t be like me. I had to learn the hard way. But despite the pain, I realized that the right guy shouldn’t be a playboy or the first boy who says “I love you!” The right man isn’t one who just stays for the little blunders but doesn’t know how to handle storms. He’s not one who stays sweet now and breaks your heart later.
The right guy won’t settle for the easy path. He works hard he knows you are a master piece. He will respect you, your body, and your demands. He doesn’t just use his feelings; he thinks with his brain. The right man will not look at other women for comfort; he will prove to you that you are enough.
Girl, never think that you’re not worth the chase. If a man really loves you, he will do what is right. Even if things don’t seem to agree his way, he will use his brains and be ready to face whatever comes his way.
Don’t be afraid to raise your standards. Never stoop down to their level just to get their attention. If a guy easily gives up, then he is not worth it. But worry not, be confident that the Lord has you. Just be sure to obey His word and the people around you.
When a guy works hard for you, he will definitely value you more. Because he poured all blood, tears, and sweat, it’s enough proof that he really wants to win you over.
Believe me when I say you are worth the chase. Don’t be rash; for now, enjoy the company of those you hold dear. Live life to the fullest. Eventually, the right person will come. All you have to do is trust and believe.
You shouldn’t view the world as a cruel, brutal place.
You need to see the beauty in the world and in yourself.
Here are a few quotes to help pessimistic women become more optimistic:
1. HAPPINESS STARTS WITH YOU
It doesn’t matter how much money you make or what you see when you look in the mirror. Money and looks won’t make you happy. You’ll only be happy if you make the decision to be happy.
2. THINK POSITIVE
You won’t understand the power of positivity until you try it on for size. If you think good things will happen, then more good things will happen!
3. BE THANKFUL
You can appreciate what you have today while trying to create a better tomorrow for yourself. In fact, that’s exactly the way you should live life.
4. YOU’RE DOING THE BEST YOU CAN
You shouldn’t feel unsuccessful if you’re doing the best that you can.It’s impossible for you to try harder than your hardest.
5. NEW WEEK
Don’t let last week tear you down.It’s a new week, so leave the past behind.
6. YOU’RE A SURVIVOR
You’ve made it this far in life. You can make it even further.Trust me.
7. HAPPINESS CAN ALWAYS BE FOUND
In other words, every cloud has a silver lining.You just have to change your perspective on a situation in order to see its good side.
8. SMILE AT STRANGERS
You don’t have to do anything drastic in order to have a nice day.All you have to do is listen, laugh, and give a lot of compliments.
9. GOOD ENERGY IS CONTAGIOUS
If you hang around optimistic people, then you’ll become more optimistic.That’s why you have to leave the pessimists behind
10. THE NUMBER ON THE SCALE DOESN’T DEFINE YOU
All you see when you step on a scale is a single number.That doesn’t tell you all that much about yourself, now does it?
11. STOP BLAMING SOCIETY
You need to take responsibility for your actions.If you do something wrong, blame yourself instead of placing the blame on everybody else.
12. YOU’RE GOOD ENOUGH
Stop criticizing yourself. You’re pretty enough for that boy. You’re smart enough for that promotion.You’re strong enough for this world.
13. THE STRONGEST PEOPLE ACCEPT PAIN
Don’t be pessimistic, because you know there’s a lot of pain in the world.After all, the strongest people accept the pain that they feel.
14. YOU DON’T NEED A PLAN
It helps to have goals and plans, but you shouldn’t freak out if you’re clueless about what you want from the future. See what happens.